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Do we choose to be who we are?
And what, by the way, is choice? If you can’t snap your fingers to change, how do you change? What do we ask people to do when we ask them to change? Why should anyone change?

Green birds are birds
I point this out because you asked. Look at these bird friends. Both are green. They’re both birds! Neither is confused. Neither is upset. And your mind will really be blown when you realize—

Yes, Virginia, there are brainworms
And some conspiracy theorists do have them. Yes, Virginia, there are brainworms. They exist as certainly as transphobia exists and abounds attempting to morally mandate trans people out of existence.

FBI flew to Cuba to save a girl from trans healthcare…
…where was this energy for Jeffrey Epstein’s victims? When a Boeing 757 comes for a trans parent and their child, the plane, not anyone’s gender, concerns me. Plus, no one sent a plane for Epstein’s victims.

‘Other people didn’t have to like it.’ Nope! But raise a glass to respect!
Kathleen Stock on her limited understanding of whether gay rights are about being ‘liked’. When Kathleen Stock says undecided people should publicly go for drinks with anti-trans people, she’s imagining a cis audience seeking cis solidarity.

Who you are (is someone who will not give up)
Learnings from being a person. We are here to be here together. To accept each other’s identities, to listen, to build. What survives is made of our knowledge, intention, and hope.

I don’t give two ribits over how many gametes
Two out of three frogs agree: It is just not relevaribint. If I were a third thing, it couldn’t be a third gamete, as I’ve been warned a thougamete ribits. Fine with me. I heard you all loud and clibbit.

In the queer labyrinth, you refuse to choose
‘It’s Only Forever’ by Jes Battis. Who is someone else to define our options and order us when to choose? Our refusal is queer. Our reframing is queer. But how to exit the labyrinth?

What rights don’t trans people have? (many Facebook bots ask)
This is what I spend a great deal of time writing about. I hope everyone will seek knowledge from many people. Learning is collective. Also, it’s liberating. It’s a process and a journey.