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Baldness isn’t just physical
It’s also performative. Labels describe how we live. Even when they describe reality, they’re about perceptions and performances. How we live interprets who we are.
When labels don’t feel right
She had two moms, and she didn’t like the word ‘straight’. If we have a stake in a shared outcome, we might avoid declaring how we’re different and separate from others, especially to imply our superiority.
People have been mad about ‘cisgender’ since at least 2007
If someone wants a world where no one is marked as cis, they must simultaneously fight for a world where no one is marked as trans.
FBI flew to Cuba to save a girl from trans healthcare…
…where was this energy for Jeffrey Epstein’s victims? When a Boeing 757 comes for a trans parent and their child, the plane, not anyone’s gender, concerns me. Plus, no one sent a plane for Epstein’s victims.
‘Other people didn’t have to like it.’ Nope! But raise a glass to respect!
Kathleen Stock on her limited understanding of whether gay rights are about being ‘liked’. When Kathleen Stock says undecided people should publicly go for drinks with anti-trans people, she’s imagining a cis audience seeking cis solidarity.
Who you are (is someone who will not give up)
Learnings from being a person. We are here to be here together. To accept each other’s identities, to listen, to build. What survives is made of our knowledge, intention, and hope.
I don’t give two ribits over how many gametes
Two out of three frogs agree: It is just not relevaribint. If I were a third thing, it couldn’t be a third gamete, as I’ve been warned a thougamete ribits. Fine with me. I heard you all loud and clibbit.
In the queer labyrinth, you refuse to choose
‘It’s Only Forever’ by Jes Battis. Who is someone else to define our options and order us when to choose? Our refusal is queer. Our reframing is queer. But how to exit the labyrinth?
What rights don’t trans people have? (many Facebook bots ask)
This is what I spend a great deal of time writing about. I hope everyone will seek knowledge from many people. Learning is collective. Also, it’s liberating. It’s a process and a journey.