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Give trans kids privacy and affirmation
Doing so won’t hurt you. California Assembly passes two bills in 2023. One way not to be anxious about trans people is just to listen to us and respect what we say we need, because what we truly need isn’t scary.

How to reduce your anxiety over the ‘idea’ of trans kids
Look at that ‘idea’, and change your assumptions about it. Or, if you want to spend years feeling anxious that you don’t know how to respond to the existence of trans kids, start by making these bad assumptions.

When I, a trans person, spoke to a bioethicist about consequences
We did not agree, and I was wrong. But I wouldn’t have wanted the state to send me to a mandated mental health counselor nor hand up six months of counseling notes to a bioethicist.

The ‘But why do trans…?’ questions often just ask about being human
Of course humans will disagree with and disappoint each other. So where are we going together? What’s the ultimate goal of all our values, judgments, opinions, discernments? What’s the end game we’re playing? Where are we going with all this change?

Then they came for the taxpayers
Not the tax evaders. The taxpayers. There is nothing we can do to earn our place in this system. The system is unfair, and it will come for everyone in due course.

Why was Palestinian student leader Mahmoud Khalil detained?
The meaning of ‘shalom’ I know is ‘peace.’ A political arrest isn’t peaceful. President Trump aims to take away freedoms to speak against injustice. He’s testing his power to defund Columbia University and arrest its students.

You are not seeing things. You are seeing change.
‘Trans’ is very broad and it is a construct, and I am grateful to learn from this. The benevolent trickster walks the path of unfolding tricks. We are tricked. We are surprised. We leap. We are foolish and wise.

European medical orgs: Trans kids need access to puberty blockers
Organizations in three European countries recommend trans kids’ access to gender-affirming care. Therapists can’t help you get feelings & identities you don’t & won’t have on your own. For lots of mainstream medical orgs, this isn’t controversial.

Let me tell you something gorgeous about regret
We will begin but this path cannot end yet. We don’t know how to exist without the way it was. The well has never been so deep. We’ve just wandered into it again.