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If you’re told your position is harmful
Someone’s mad at your car. Did you almost run them over? I can pause and apologize. I care about others. I recognize that their perspectives are valid and their observations about my behavior might be correct.

I just want to select NO
The worst YES/NO interface design I’ve seen. We can create a nonviolent culture with the first questions we ask, being willing to hear an answer that’s polarized or ambivalent, loud or quiet.

Why someone complained about the review you posted to Goodreads
Their reason wasn’t as complicated as they made it sound. They say it’s too short. Or too long. What are they really complaining about? What don’t they like about your review?

The ‘But why do trans…?’ questions often just ask about being human
Of course humans will disagree with and disappoint each other. So where are we going together? What’s the ultimate goal of all our values, judgments, opinions, discernments? What’s the end game we’re playing? Where are we going with all this change?

Then they came for the taxpayers
Not the tax evaders. The taxpayers. There is nothing we can do to earn our place in this system. The system is unfair, and it will come for everyone in due course.

Why was Palestinian student leader Mahmoud Khalil detained?
The meaning of ‘shalom’ I know is ‘peace.’ A political arrest isn’t peaceful. President Trump aims to take away freedoms to speak against injustice. He’s testing his power to defund Columbia University and arrest its students.

You are not seeing things. You are seeing change.
‘Trans’ is very broad and it is a construct, and I am grateful to learn from this. The benevolent trickster walks the path of unfolding tricks. We are tricked. We are surprised. We leap. We are foolish and wise.

European medical orgs: Trans kids need access to puberty blockers
Organizations in three European countries recommend trans kids’ access to gender-affirming care. Therapists can’t help you get feelings & identities you don’t & won’t have on your own. For lots of mainstream medical orgs, this isn’t controversial.

Let me tell you something gorgeous about regret
We will begin but this path cannot end yet. We don’t know how to exist without the way it was. The well has never been so deep. We’ve just wandered into it again.