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If you’re told your position is harmful
Someone’s mad at your car. Did you almost run them over? I can pause and apologize. I care about others. I recognize that their perspectives are valid and their observations about my behavior might be correct.

I just want to select NO
The worst YES/NO interface design I’ve seen. We can create a nonviolent culture with the first questions we ask, being willing to hear an answer that’s polarized or ambivalent, loud or quiet.

Why someone complained about the review you posted to Goodreads
Their reason wasn’t as complicated as they made it sound. They say it’s too short. Or too long. What are they really complaining about? What don’t they like about your review?

What to expect from the ‘Adult Human Female’ documentary
Yes, of course it’s anti-trans! Adult Human Female did not interview a trans person. What’s in the hour-and-a half documentary, in chronological order. I have opinions. I make remarks.

These aren’t innocent questions. It’s an anti-trans agenda.
‘Gender-criticalism’ is linked to right-wing agendas. Today ‘the religious and neo-fascist right,’ with so-called gender-criticals, ‘believe the optimum number of trans people is zero,’ Brynn Tannehill says.

‘Gender-critical’ ideology is just dualism
The ‘GC’ worldview is a split between good and evil, physical and mental. It incredibly claims to vaporize all gender roles despite working to uphold gender. It focuses on what people can or can’t be, do, or have due to their sex.

The Gelflings are trans
And trans people are Gelflings. ‘Now, we leave you the Crystal of Truth,’ the Beings tell the Gelflings who are no longer Gelflings — because they are finally being left alone.

‘Red flags’ in queer dating aren’t the problem
What we compromise on lies beyond the red flag. A ‘red flag’ is a difference that alarms or confuses you. Though the flag itself isn’t a conflict, it may lead you to suspect your date isn’t a good match.

Empathy for cis people
Trans people have it because we don’t live in a trans bubble. My jaw hit the floor. I picked it up and put it back in. It fell out again. It rolled under the sofa and I have spent the last two weeks looking for it.