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Give trans kids privacy and affirmation
Doing so won’t hurt you. California Assembly passes two bills in 2023. One way not to be anxious about trans people is just to listen to us and respect what we say we need, because what we truly need isn’t scary.

How to reduce your anxiety over the ‘idea’ of trans kids
Look at that ‘idea’, and change your assumptions about it. Or, if you want to spend years feeling anxious that you don’t know how to respond to the existence of trans kids, start by making these bad assumptions.

When I, a trans person, spoke to a bioethicist about consequences
We did not agree, and I was wrong. But I wouldn’t have wanted the state to send me to a mandated mental health counselor nor hand up six months of counseling notes to a bioethicist.

‘Gyre’: A novel about how we’re called into being
‘The deduction came in a rush: I had been alive before’. ‘I could just as easily have held my tongue, or saved my comment for another time. This realization came, as always, too late,’ Abby says in ‘Gyre’.

In 10 days, four anti-trans exec orders & a bathroom ban for fed employees
Keep looking up. Trump 2025 has been in office for a bit over a week. These will affect trans people intersectionally or in unexpected ways. There’s a lot of material, so I’ve listed the executive orders with clickable images.

Tonight’s ban on adult gender transition (yes, 18-year-olds are adults)
By executive order, the federal government will not support transition. ‘Maiming’ is unspecific. ‘Sterilizing’ is generally untrue. ‘A growing number’ is fact-free; if the president had numbers, he’d provide them.

You’ve been trying. I see it.
What’s happening now isn’t because of who you are, dear readers. Let’s continue to try. So you consumed too much ice cream, got wicked creative, were fascinated by death, made decisions with your gut, wrote inappropriate film dialogue. And?

Am I the right kind of gay and trans for you?
Why our identities matter so much to us, why we bring them up, and why we use our favorite labels. My identity isn’t a bargaining chip. It’s an intangible. Try to touch it. It’ll vanish. The label denotes the space through which breath and fire passes.

Republicans to change Title IX to deny trans kids’ genders
It hurts everyone. If they abolish the Dept. of Education, no one will have sex discrimination protections. If the Education Dept. disappears, no student can make any discrimination claim. Girls won’t have sex discrimination protections. Who will hear them?