When we come out as LGBTQ, we assert who we are and who we want to be. But of course we'll change and mature throughout our lives. I often write about being a transgender man. I don't write directly about my transition in 1998; instead, I tend to share what I'm still learning today. I'll give writing prompts: what you know and can act on, what you don't know and might learn, what's been standing in your way, what's your electrifying insight right now, and what will change. For anyone who wants a nudge to structure—or unstructure—a personal essay.