Assume humanity, then ask about happiness

pencil sketch of two gentle hands, resting with palms up, against a muted psychedelic rainbow background

Trans people‘s say-so is evidence of our happiness. But no one should ask for evidence that trans people are people. Previously, I used Lydia Polgreen’s opinion as an example, and I identified and extracted these writing tips for you. Please note this key distinction.

Can an identity be true and not true?

old-style building seen through a large ornate archway

On ‘constitutive tension’ in our concepts. Picking apart someone else’s identity? First ask: Why do you want to? What would be gained? And lost? What happens to your own identity in the process?

How do we know who we are?

Crystal ball balancing on a rock near a bridge with an upside-down reflection of the bridge

Do we learn it from a crystal ball—or from our guts? How do others state with certainty that they know who they are? Do they have a crystal ball? Of course, we’re jealous. How can we know ourselves, too?

Do we choose to be who we are?

Monarch caterpillar clings to a leaf

And what, by the way, is choice? If you can’t snap your fingers to change, how do you change? What do we ask people to do when we ask them to change? Why should anyone change?

Green birds are birds

Two Asian green bee-eaters. The underside of the wing is rust orange. The breast is vibrant green.

I point this out because you asked. Look at these bird friends. Both are green. They’re both birds! Neither is confused. Neither is upset. And your mind will really be blown when you realize—