Baldness isn’t just physical

A bearded man wears a button-down shirt with floral embroidery. He's playing a banjo and is wearing a large hat, so you can't tell if he's bald.

It’s also performative. Labels describe how we live. Even when they describe reality, they’re about perceptions and performances. How we live interprets who we are.

A philosopher discusses gender

Transgressive - detail from the book cover

Transgressive by Rachel Anne Williams. Fabulous trans philosophy book. Trans people can be men, women, or something else, and no one should be subject to cis normativity.

How do we know who we are?

Crystal ball balancing on a rock near a bridge with an upside-down reflection of the bridge

Do we learn it from a crystal ball—or from our guts? How do others state with certainty that they know who they are? Do they have a crystal ball? Of course, we’re jealous. How can we know ourselves, too?

Do we choose to be who we are?

Monarch caterpillar clings to a leaf

And what, by the way, is choice? If you can’t snap your fingers to change, how do you change? What do we ask people to do when we ask them to change? Why should anyone change?

Green birds are birds

Two Asian green bee-eaters. The underside of the wing is rust orange. The breast is vibrant green.

I point this out because you asked. Look at these bird friends. Both are green. They’re both birds! Neither is confused. Neither is upset. And your mind will really be blown when you realize—

Is your clothing the wrong gender?

A person wraps themself in a gray blanket. You can only see their hands.

A proposed Texas law would classify you as a drag performer. A proposed law in Texas says there’s a proper, legal way to wear clothing and makeup—and to have a body. You must look like your “gender assigned at birth”.

You’re an individual who has identities

Silhouettes of lots of people standing in a field against the glowing horizon.

Robyn Blumner defending Richard Dawkins. Let’s not keep falling back on the idea that certain men are pre-approved to say whatever they like. Their free speech isn’t a stand-in for everyone else’s.

It takes two people to go on a first date

two cartoon people, with short hair, grinning. one has their arm around the other.

You may want info before a first date, but that doesn’t mean you’re entitled to have it. If someone isn’t allowed to have their gender at a key moment, they aren’t really allowed to have it at all. Cis people don’t own trans people’s info.